Nigerian writer, Ese Walter shares her story, recounting her alleged involvement with Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo while opening up on the manipulation, shame, healing, and forgiveness.

The conversation surfaced during an unexpected encounter with a woman who had also been involved with Fatoyinbo.

Walter, who had previously spoken out about her experience in 2013, described how she was initially charmed by Fatoyinbo during her attendance at his church, COZA.

Reflecting on her upbringing, she noted how deep-seated cultural reverence for pastors made her vulnerable. In her words, she had been “programmed to fear pastors” and believed in their moral infallibility. This background, she says, intensified her disillusionment when she later confronted her experience.

Over the years, Walter has had to grapple with guilt and anger, sharing how her attempts to confide in other pastors were met with scepticism.

Years later, however, Walter is now choosing a different path. Reflecting on her emotional journey, she says she’s releasing any resentment toward Fatoyinbo, acknowledging that the experience shaped her but does not define her.

In a moment of clarity, she opted out of participating in a #SurvivingBiodun documentary, realizing that continuing to revisit the trauma no longer served her.

Walter concluded her story in a Facebook post with a sense of liberation and personal growth, acknowledging her strength and resilience, saying, “I am nobody’s victim.”

Ese Walter recounts alleged experience With Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo

“On My Coza Experience And Releasing Biodun Fatoyinbo
Yesterday, I had an interesting conversation with this beautiful lady.
She had picked interest in me since we were introduced last year, I was about to find out why.

After trying to set up dates to “talk” which we never got around to, we met at a mutual friends event and she got the chance to engage me.
Only I wasn’t expecting the conversation she wanted to have.

Her – I dated Biodun Fatoyinbo for 2 years shortly before he became sick.
Me – Silence*
I didn’t know how to respond to this information. Like, what do you say to that?
She proceeds to show me their Whatsapp chat. Maybe to validate claims and then adds “I even asked him about you and the whole story.”
Me – hmmm… I didn’t date Biodun, you know?
Her – Oh!
Me – It wasn’t a relationship. He lured me into sex. I could not really explain what happened and there was a lot of shame after, then fear, then anger. Great anger!
Now she is the one who is silent.
Then she asks – Can you tell me what happened?
“If you don’t mind that is.” She adds.
I don’t mind.

I sit back and flashes of the events that led up to meeting Biodun came up in my mind. It was such a rush for something I wasn’t consciously thinking about.
I start from the very beginning of meeting Biodun and how the usher told me the pastor wanted to see me, few weeks into attending the church in 2009.
As I told the story, the things that hapoened, the events that led up to my deep reverence and fear for the man – it started long before I ever stepped foot in COZA.

From my childhood home, I had been programmed to fear pastors and see them as gods. They were not to be messed with… And if Titus 1 : 6-9 was anything to go by, they supposedly had certain qualities

Titus 1 : 6 “An elder must be blameless, faithful to his wife, a man whose children believe and are not open to the charge of being wild and disobedient. 7 Since an overseer manages God’s household, he must be blameless—not overbearing, not quick-tempered, not given to drunkenness, not violent, not pursuing dishonest gain. 8 Rather, he must be hospitable, one who loves what is good, who is self-controlled, upright, holy and disciplined. 9 He must hold firmly to the trustworthy message as it has been taught, so that he can encourage others by sound doctrine and refute those who oppose it.”

I believed every pastor who preached on the pulpit had passed this scripture’s litmus test so I was not only hurt by my mistake but confused and scared.
I asked him to step down and seek help. I too needed help and left the church to a different church.

This other church is where I broke down one day during service as the preacher wouldn’t keep Biodun’s name out of his mouth. It was as though my sins were chasing me . By the time I was done with my story, sister girl shared something with me. I learned about white magic and hypnosis.

Well, not learned but heard how some of these pastors use these techniques on unassuming girls.
She said she was no saint. She had dated 3 big pastors/bishops in this Nigeria and she enjoyed those relationships.
I smiled.

I explained that I was a naive girl who grew up sheltered and knew only what my mummy told me about pastors. I also had a rich father so I never needed to date any man for anything financial as was the case with some other girls who shared their stories with Biodun with me.

By the end of the discussion, we were laughing and talking about equitorial guinea fowl and how randy some men are.
I thought that was the end until I got home.
I started thinking of some details I hadn’t considered back them.
Signs I missed.

Things I should have done differently.
I remembered when telling her about the hotel visit in London.
“Growing up in the 90s in Abuja, my daddy took the family to spend Christmas into New Year at Transcorp every year for about a decade. Hotels did not bring sex to my mind. It reminded me of family holiday-ing.”
This was the reason I didn’t suspect anything when he said to come up to that Hilton Paddington room.

I smiled at younger Ese. How easily he had planned her and led her down a path.
I also felt sorry for young Ese. How confused she was, fearing that God would strike her down one day.
I wanted to hug young Ese because of how angry she became when she didn’t get help.

The first pastor she opened up to asked her if she seduced Biodun
“Nobody will believe you.”
Someone had said to me.
“You will destroy your life.”
Another chirped.

When I saw how crazy everything was becoming, I chose to destroy my life and share the story in a blog for all to read.
My life was destroyed indeed.
Until it started to build itself back up
Rising Phoenix style

For nearly a decade I was trying to pick up the pieces, dragging others along my destructive path as I went.
Then last night, alone in my room, I had a lightbulb moment it seemed
It wasn’t that he did something special or weird.
It was that I was a naive girl who was in big trouble and I tired to save myself.
I have been trying to save myself all them years, forcing myself to move forward, desperate to forget.

Carl Jung said, “THAT WHICH YOU MOST NEED WILL BE FOUND WHERE YOU LEAST WANT TO LOOK.”
So I looked again.
I looked at the events that led me there, the friends that appeared, the ones that left, the buzz and awareness the story created despite the drags.
I sat in bed and said, “it wasn’t my fault and I can choose to rewrite that story.”
I can choose to release him.

The beautiful lady who spoke to me had humanized Biodun in my mind.
I realized that even him, like that equitorial guinea fowl, had his own demons.
And I believed all I heard about pastors without ever checking it.

While I didn’t feel any illl feelings telling the story to the beautiful lady, I remembered I had joined a group to create a #survivingbiodun documentary earlier in the year.
It now seemed beneath me

Those documentaries hardly do anything other than short term entertainment
Did I want my name and face and brand on it?
The answer was NO!
I spoke out loud, “I release Biodun Fatoyinbo from everywhere I have held him in unforgiveness. I do it first for myself and I also do it for him.”
And so it is!

This morning, I did an email to pull myself out of our little #survivingbiodun documentary. Thankfully no monies had exchange hands neither did I sign any contracts.

I can’t explain this part with words but I felt something release. Like my shoulders literally dropped and my breath felt steady.
For a moment, a very brief moment, I was silent then sudden laughter like a hyena
I laughed until I coughed a little
It is TIME, I told myself

Something is happening in and to me and while I don’t fully understand what that something is, I felt it had come full circle in that moment.
I open myself up to all the newness this season is bringing
This is what it means to be SAVED!

Biodun Fatoyinbo, I realize now, 13 YEARS AFTER, that indeed ALL THINGS HAPPEN AS THEY SHOULD
And I am nobody’s victim
Taaaaa!
Good night this night ”

Home owners of Ruga, a settlement along Airport Road, Abuja, took to the streets on Friday to protest the demolition of their homes by FCT Minister Nyesom Wike.

According to reports,  Wike had previously ordered a task force, “Operation Sweep,” to demolish Ruga and other communities within the nation’s capital to clear the city of perceived nuisances and criminal activities.

Leading the demonstration, renowned lawyer and activist Deji Adeyanju, along with Vincent Martins Otse, popularly known as VeryDarkMan, said the demolition was carried out with malicious intent.

Adeyanju expressed concern, stating that the task force burned many houses and destroyed property worth millions of naira.

He urged President Bola Tinubu to consider the plight of poor people who had been driven from their homes in Borno and other northern states due to insecurity in the region.

Adeyanju said: “There is no justification for this demolition. We are using this medium to appeal to the president to consider the plight of the displaced residents, who are barely surviving.

“Most of the residents here were forced out of their homes in Borno, Adamawa, and Yobe due to insecurity.

“Most of them are artisans trying to make a living. These demolitions are excessive, and Mr President needs to act to prevent further harassment of the people.

“We are sounding a warning to those in government that peace is only achievable if the poor are allowed to live peacefully. When the poor cannot sleep, it affects everyone.

“Tinubu should call Wike to order and stop him from demolishing people’s homes and reallocating the land to rich people.

“There is no justification for demolishing these homes and allocating them to the rich. There is no overriding public interest here because the community is far from the main road.”

On his part, Otse stated: “This is strange. The repercussions of this will have a heavy toll on Abuja. This area that has been demolished is not near the main road. These people have been rendered homeless amid the ongoing hardship in the country.

“They are evicting these people without compensating them. It is sad that the elite think the poor are not part of society.”

A chat allegedly between Nollywood actor, Yul Edochie, and his estranged wife, May, regarding his affair with Judy Austin surfaces, sparking mixed reactions online.

Earlier, in a recent interview with veteran actor, Kanayo O. Kanayo, Yul Edochie’s brother, Linc, expressed views on his brother’s marriage to Judy Austin, emphasizing the importance of marital privacy.

According to the leaked chat, Yul Edochie apologized to May over his infidelity with Judy Austin, claiming they dated for five years and had tried to end the affair repeatedly, but to no avail.

The leaked chat reveals Yul Edochie pleading with May not to divorce him, citing her significant influence on his life and expressing remorse.

According to reports, May initially forgave Yul Edochie for his infidelity, but in a surprising turn of events, he announced his marriage to Judy Austin months later, alongside the birth of their first child.

Reactions Trailing Alleged Chat Between Yul Edochie And May….

Rose Craig noted, “Let them live their lives, he made his choice.You can’t force polygamy down someone’s throat, especially, if your so called second wife is as greedy, disrespectful and diabolic.I can’t risk my life and kids just to maintain marriage”.

Blessing Often wrote, “I feel for both parties. These 2 people were in love before the whole brouhaha The only issue Yul has is pride”.

“He never imagined the turn around he got from May.And as for Judy, she is doing everything possible to remain married to Yul because of what people will say”.

“I pray they all heal and move on and that on time.So that social media will rest”.

Queen Kelechi asserted, “Later they will say MAY didn’t give him peace. This is a case of cheating gone wrong. Ndi peace ambasadors over to una”.

Wij Jane wrote, “This is a clear evidence that Yul doesn’t know what he is doing, the whole thing happened very fast how can a man that begging his wife like this all of a sudden?”.

“He changed he even made mentioned about trying to stop the relationship hmmm yet to no avail abeg we May fans should start praying for this man honestly he is battling with something that better not mentioned here keep remembering him in your prayers if you love May there is nothing God can’t do”.

See below….

A heavily pregnant woman wrote down the login details of all her social media accounts, along with her ATM password, and handed them to her husband just hours before going into labor, fearing she might not survive.

This revelation was shared in a TikTok post, where she appeared in a video displaying her body with a candid caption.

The caption read, “You thought labor would take your life, so you sent all your account passwords to your husband. Wasn’t about to leave my money with all these banks Wanted to make sure my family could access my funds.”

The video also included a screenshot of her chat with her husband, showing her bank details.

As the video circulated online, concerned viewers flocked to the comment section to share their thoughts.

See some reactions below:

favoured RACY MARSHAL: “it cant be me .no matter how painful the labour is i cnt give.out my password.”

i_am_abikeade~ACA~ ACTI: “It’s literally not funny … When my water broke that i was about to go to the hospital, I took a sheet of paper write all my account with password , Even the account with ATM card i indicated it.”

ANONYMOUS: “since I sick terribly last time i give all my password to my wife and she already know my bank acct password b4 but i gave her my Crypto, other wallet.”

Mama : “lol Kuku tag me this is me on Monday morning in the theater room.”

user7639206912685: “exactly what i did before labour, wrote it in my diary and told my 13 years daughter about it.”

DeeBee Bake/ Cakes in Ipaja: “Thank God you’re alive to make this post. God bless all mothers .”

nuela bright: “I told my sister that if I die she should take the baby to my mom .”

nkechielizzy_: “As I do my surgery, I begged this man to collect all my passwords cos na me dae keep house money, he refused oooo, I write am for my notes for am.”

Nayomi: “my siblings knows my passwords but not hubby.”

boladeadeshina1: “I love your husband response God bless your family .”

Unbothered Fatty : “Me too when I wanted to born my first daughter d pregnancy show me shege.”

Bebicakes: “Adedayo thank God you made it out I’m happy for you my friend .”

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Was not about to leave my money for all these banks wanted to make sure my family could access my money @TikTok #viral_video #fyp

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